First off, it's not completely their fault. I know there is war, rape, robbery, oppression, murder, molestation, lying, conspiracies, disease etc. These are much more damaging to anyone's psyche than a romantic comedy, yet is that an excuse for me, every time, as to why my relationships aren't the way they are or why I'm not a billionaire like Bill Gates or a marine biologist? No, it's up to me to interpret or apply these events to my life, or not dwell on them/think about them too much so as not to interfere with my emotions/logic as well as I can only think of so many things at once. It's not a moral, ethical or mere intelligence/common sense issue, rather than merely survival.
Now, romantic comedies are much less harmful than the trauma of what I've named. A broken heart heals and even a really bad date is preferred over being raped, murdered, set up and sent to prison falsely, or getting cancer/aids/heart disease/mad cow disease etc. What is a movie/book/song other than what we choose? I can look at even a serious drama and make jokes about it. I can laugh at it like the sci fi comedy Mystery Science Theater 3000 does, or I can look at just one or few parts in a slapstick romantic comedy and think, wow, that's inspirational but because I choose to. Not only is this my body and my life, but my mind. It's all the same because my body/mind experience my life. There's no changing that and there shouldn't be. That's not living nor surviving nor is it being a responsible citizen or person. How I interpret things should be quite flexible as I deem fit. In other words, I'm the only that's me. Who is going to do the thinking except for me? Even if a person offers or tries or wants to or forces to do the thinking for me, even in the nicest way that spells trouble. The only reason the bible talks about the moats in our eyes is because of the difficulty of a person to manage their own life, due to entropy, multitasking, chance, and the competition/cooperation/responsibility of other people, the environment and our inner strengths, conflicts, weaknesses, and victories.
Articles I read that say romantic comedies ruin marriages and love are looking at the symptom and not the disease. The disease is ignorance, lack of experience and a good/experienced teacher. That's not a put down but merely an observation and something we all go through. I'm definitely not saying to be quiet if you don't know everything. When do you know if you know everything or enough to be qualified to teach? The instinct to teach and nurture is not something that should be suppressed or hurt. Instead, you should teach how to proceed to reach the point of teaching and communicate, well, I don't really know completely or at all, or I may know but just in case, this is what I know, how I found out, and you may want to look into it a bit further since and then give reasons pertaining to the situation on hand. Teaching is how we learn, whether it's teaching ourselves or others. Teaching others is merely passing along information. Teaching just sounds official and complex and as if you need a degree or something to do it. However, it's partially natural and also learned, as with all things from walking to speech. If it weren't natural to an extent, then we'd never be able to learn it in the first place. In order to learn you must also be able to teach, otherwise you're only a walking vessel of knowledge with no opening. In other words, you fill a pitcher with water to pour it out. We're that pitcher and people's minds thirst for knowledge, love and life and like digital information, giving knowledge doesn't take away from you physically when you share it. What happens is the results in an entropic environment of us merely trying to survive/live is what might come back to bite us in the ass. However, that's like saying if you go outside or take a chance on love you might get burned. You have to try, otherwise you're not living. Damned if you do or don't, you may as well try and even if there's only a slight chance you'll succeed, it's worth trying since you fail 100% if you don't try, otherwise, many wonderful things have happened in love, war, and life that hardly had a chance of happening. If you think about it, since we don't belong in this environment or existence in the first place, we're walking miracles every second of our lives. If we were meant for this Universe, this earth, it'd be no effort to be a Utopia. The concept of war and the concept of the lack of paradise would be inane or pointless. It's like finding true love and seriously considering the alternative of complete misery since true love and happiness has so cliché since everyone else is doing it. Well, everyone else is eating and drinking water to stay alive but someone it's not so cliché when you're hungry or thirsty especially. Our minds and bodies have instincts of intelligence and survival. That's our two sides of the same coin of our lives. When that is oppressed by society, traditions, religions, governments, environment that's not just bad for us, it's bad for the entire human race. A ripple in the pond of the human collective will cause stormy seas of humanity that capsizes life, liberty and happiness. That may sound political but what is the opposite of liberty except bondage, being kidnapped, raped, or imprisoned. Think of it even in a natural setting for animals without any humans about. If a rock slide happens to any animal and their leg is trapped under a rock and they die, well, that's not liberty. Now don't go panicking or “flipping out,” which is essentially the same since our fight or flight instinct are basically the same. It's movement, either forwards to fight to get to the exit, or running away when fighting is such a bad idea you're better off looking for an exit. Either way you're moving forward in time by staying alive. So, freedom comes from within as well as without. The title “I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings” creates the image of even in times of imprisonment, the mind and heart and “spirit” soar. This is why even in war there should be rules. We are the same species and even when not, are we cruel to animals? We should never be and they are in some ways less capable than us. How so, for example, if we met an alien race? We are all great, great or not. Bacteria in the soil make it so even us “super intelligent” humans can survive. Anyhow, something that we've forgotten is to learn to teach ourselves, or it's been taken away from us. We're not complacent, lazy, sloth or anything. That implies that genetically, we're a failed race. If that's the case, how does the human race survive and continue to breed? If you say because others give to us through charity then you're wrong. Genetically we'd still fail since the instinct to eat and mate is a survival instinct. What has merely happened is conditioning and perhaps weakening a bit, though that's an athlete being sedentary for a bit. All they need is more training and practice to get back in the game of life. So, if you're eating and mating (having sex without kids is included, it literally is practice and bonding or social intercourse) then you're perfectly capable of surviving, since you're alive. You see, when we learn, whether through abuse or oppression or religion or traditions our brains, biologically form neural pathways or “roads on mars.” You never really forget how to ride a bicycle for this reason even though you probably never think about it from moment to moment, especially if you're married, busy, working, and oh, alive. That is unless you're a mountain biking fan and your bike is broken. Well, then pain and love are two sides to the same coin. That coin is life. People who say there must be evil to show there is good, or pain to show us happiness are philosophers or bullshit artists. That's like saying there must be death in order to appreciate life. Well, when it comes to our emotions, and happiness and survival that's a complete lie. All life is moot for you, once you're dead, afterlife or not, and especially in the case of the latter. They are using words to affect your emotions or thoughts or ping you, essentially or set you up for a smashing serve, or a save. Either way, sitting on your ass waiting for your ass to get handed to you or waiting to be saved when it's built in us genetically to get up and walk, whether adult or child, is not ridiculous, it's merely not living. The habit of saying you're an idiot even when the most intelligent person makes an “obvious” mistake is defying logic or truth. If it were so obvious and we judged them as intelligence before that mistake, then, who is also “stupid” as well as responsible for them? Whether it's saving them, ourselves or others from that “stupid mistake” did we just sit back and watch? Obviously we're both wrong if we think it's ours or their stupidity when it's merely a habit or a set of neural pathways that were changed, whether accidentally or on purpose, it matters not when it comes to fixing the issue when it comes to the actual task of resetting those neurons, at least in the majority of case or work. That's like telling an Army mechanic he has to make battle plans as well as take care of the logistics as he's fixing an army transport vehicle that's been sabotaged or broke down from natural wear and tear. It's simply not effective, nor when it comes to timely survival and not prolonging suffering, efficient. So, we do need to focus on “looking without and fixing our own problems” or being our own mechanics. Therapists? Oh please. Clergy? Just as bad. Friends, well, that's a pretty good effort and often effective, but because love tends to make people more honest and insightful. There's a connection. Think of it this way, how can you do brain surgery without opening up the skull and actually seeing what's in there. Can't do that with the mind you say? Exactly. Can you see in your mind? Or are you your mind and thinking and rather aware? Why yes, so if you're able to read, or not, if you can have emotion or any basic human thinking function then you can do it, and that's not to say true friends can't help out. That'd be like saying you can never help a limping person along or old lady across the street or crippled person out, especially in an emergency. However, since colonies of bacteria can plan three steps ahead it's not stupidity that impedes us, it's human emotions that have been hurt. As far as A.I. Goes I'd like to point out that it'd be obvious to them that humans without emotion would not be human nor alive. It's like saying, you know, I can solve your mistakes by cutting off your head. Well, yes that'd solve it but only because you wouldn't be alive to make any. Well, back to the we should be taught to teach ourselves, like the old saying teach a man to fish. Well, not only teaching people to learn but to teach themselves is a concept we should all learn and teach ourselves. Think of it this way, well, learning and teaching go hand in hand as emotional intelligence goes with logical intelligence. Two sides to the same coin and saying they're opposites mean you're only away of one side of the coin. They're both their at the same time and we all know this but don't “realize” or communicate this to ourselves effectively let alone others. One can't exist without the other, or the world would not be even 3D to our limited senses, nor would we be alive, like not having emotions would kill us. “Even animals have emotions” is a quote I've heard and said myself. It's not that I don't feel loved and loving when I've got a pet like a cat on my lap, it's merely that people don't always say what they mean most effectively, expressively or “perfectly” which is really just fine since that's like saying “well, you're not a moral/nice/decent human being if you don't shoot a hoop perfectly, or get a perfect bowling score or batting average every time.” However, we're conditioned to believe people have to be “perfect” in their social graces when physically we observe in sports that it's pretty impossible to get a perfect score in every sport every time. The pressure we put on ourselves is put on others even when they just see that as an example of how they should be, especially when they like or admire us, which oddly enough, is even less culpable than putting that pressure on them directly, and often that's taught either so brutally, craftily or with just the right timing that even the most decent of us can look quite like asses, when in fact we are all victims to a “hostile” or “nearly unsurvivable” environment. It's not the environments fault either. It's like blaming nature or “God” for drownings when we have a set of lungs. It just happened because we don't have gills. Oh even our most intelligent scientists stumble on their words or facts on lectures, and Moses himself needed his partner to do the speaking for him. And, either all our prophets throughout time couldn't get it right, or God stumbles on his words like Mormons do when giving a testimony, or people talking about their loved ones at either a wedding or a funeral. I'm sure if God gets angry and then nice, or if we do, it's all the same when we're the only ones around. It's humankind that wrote those scriptures and lectures, whether we wrote it down wrong or wrote God's word, word for word.
Not adapting does not mean you're failure. That's like telling someone they're an idiot and a failure for getting raped, murdered, beaten up, robbed, wounded etc. There are so many things out of our control and actually almost everything is out of our control for everyone on this earth. Otherwise, there would either be world peace or utter destruction and then peace after since someone would have their Hitler type dream of having gotten rid of all the competition. Well, if you want no competition the way to go about it is to create cooperation instead. Competition always leads to war. People start off with a clean slate, kids are pardoned and exempt by even religion from most wrongdoings as well as government and communities. So, if we are start off nearly “perfect” as far as all laws go, then how does the world and history continue on its course of self destruction? Obviously, there's not just one group or groups in control. Even if there was a Utopia of sorts on earth, we'd have to start early and there would be some natural disaster, disease, accidents, and even comets, cosmic rays etc messing things up down here. We are a miracle that happened in a very toxic environment and that's not just here but the rest of the Universe as well. DeGrassi commented on that in a DVD I was shown by my brother. The Universe is trying to kill us was his statement basically, or perhaps, we were never meant to be and somehow we are and keep on being.
Also, I'm trying to rewire myself to not put blame on others. We have been acclimated to acclimate when we really should be “used to” any environment or to expect the unexpected. When we get too used to things, we're in a rut, or single minded or have a one track mind. Can trains avoid obstacles at high speeds? No. Even at low speeds where they have to stop they have to just stop and sit there until someone else comes along and moves a fallen tree or a cow sitting in the middle of the tracks or if there's a landslide that takes quite a bit of work. If the train is going fast it ends up derailed and with terrorist attacks the train is a big giant pile up with even more bodies. The trick is to be more like a four wheel drive that goes in and under water, flies and goes into outer space with everything including the kitchen sink in it. Not possible? Then how did I write that and how did you imagine it enough to think it laughable? Look at the size of the computer that sent the first men to the moon, and look at the power and size of the current line of iPod Touch's when even the very first Palm Pilot had more computing power than the one that put John Glenn and Neil Armstrong, etc on the moon.
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